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Saturday, June 30, 2012

Bullies Beware


I really thought I would call it a night and prop up everything that hurts.  I fell the other day and on an old lady, there is a lot that hurts.  I do not bounce like I used to.  My body is more than willing, but my thoughts keep going round.  As a writer there are many things in life I see, hear and live that might inspire a fictional story.  More and more I hear of such tragic, painful, depressing, oppressing, and unfair instances of bullying. 

This is not just a topic, this is a disease.  It is real.  It causes pain and damage.  It hurts all involved.  We may think of the victim of the bullying, but what about the bully?  Are they not a victim too to their own ignorance and cruel actions?  When a person goes out of their way to be cruel and demean another, it may make them feel superior, but are they better for it, or does it really reveal the deficiency in their own characters to be the kind of person who would do such a thing?  Does it show how deficient their own thought processes are to be unable to have compassion, understanding or just common decency?

What is disease?  Disease

A disease is an abnormal condition affecting the body of an organism. It is often construed to be a medical condition associated with specific symptoms and signs.   It may be caused by external factors, such as infectious disease, or it may be caused by internal dysfunctions, such as autoimmune diseases. In humans, "disease" is often used more broadly to refer to any condition that causes pain, dysfunction, distress, social problems, or death to the person afflicted, or similar problems for those in contact with the person. In this broader sense, it sometimes includes injuries, disabilities, disorders, syndromes, infections, isolated symptoms, deviant behaviors, and atypical variations of structure and function, while in other contexts and for other purposes these may be considered distinguishable categories. Diseases usually affect people not only physically, but also emotionally, as contracting and living with many diseases can alter one's perspective on life, and their personality.
Diseases can also be classified as communicable and non-communicable disease.
I typed in the search and this is what I found.  When we talk about an abnormal condition we could well see the bully in this light.  They are not the normal even if the are the loudest or often one who is doing all of the talking.  It is the way of the bully to assert their power or influence over others and in the process do detrimental things.  Are there specific symptoms and signs????  I think there are without a doubt.  A bully tries to gain control and in the process diminish those around them.  They may even act like a friend while slowly degrading and causing harm to those who trust or follow them. 

In humans, "disease" is often used more broadly to refer to any condition that causes pain, dysfunction, distress, social problems, or death to the person afflicted, or similar problems for those in contact with the person. In this broader sense, it sometimes includes injuries, disabilities, disorders, syndromes

Disease has symptoms and signs.  Does a person have to use cruel or derogatory remarks to another to elevate their own self worth?  Is it fun to ridicule or demean another?  What about how another person feels??? Is it a consideration at all?  Do you do things that hurt others just because you can?  You might be a bully.  Is it a disease?  Are you diseased and unable to control your actions?  Are you unable to control your desire to inflict harm to another?



Any condition that causes pain, dysfunction, distress, social problems, or death to the person afflicted, or similar problems for those in contact with the person. In this broader sense, it sometimes includes injuries, disabilities, disorders, syndromes, infections, isolated symptoms, deviant behaviors, and atypical variations of structure and function, while in other contexts and for other purposes these may be considered distinguishable categories. Diseases usually affect people not only physically, but also emotionally, as contracting and living with many diseases can alter one's perspective on life, and their personality.



When you talk about causing pain, dysfunction, distress, social problems, or death to the person afflicted, or similar problems for those in contact with the person. In this broader sense, it sometimes includes injuries, disabilities, disorders, syndromes, infections, isolated symptoms, deviant behaviors.

We may never know how many suicides are a result of bullies and their actions.  There may and often are many other factors involved, but who knows if the bully was the last straw or factor that made the difference to life and death….and for what?  One person could hurt another so much that……  If you have bullied another, are you proud of the hurt you inflicted?  Does it show you superior intellegence to be cruel and inflict harm to another?  Does it really show a lack of your own self worth if you have to try to hurt another to increase your own status?  Is it not the bully that is the defective or deficient person who needs to be cruel and hurt others to improve their own selfworth? 


Diseases usually affect people not only physically, but also emotionally, as contracting and living with many diseases can alter one's perspective on life, and their personality.
Bullying can be contagious.  They tend to be loud and want to lead the crowd.  They tend to be ones that jump up and do not stop to consider consequences or results of their own actions or words.  They do not care.  The greater the affects, the greater their satisfaction.  They feed off of misery, and in that action they show their own miserable core.   That shows their deviant behaviors, and atypical variations of structure and function.

It is time we saw bully for what they really are.  It is time we take a look at peer pressure and realize the consequences it can have.


Any condition that causes pain, dysfunction, distress, social problems, or death to the person afflicted, or similar problems for those in contact with the person.  How can you not realize that an action such as a bully inflicts on others is anyting less than painful, causing dysfyunction distress and social problemns as they spew forth their messages.  What ever the consequences to this tactic are involveld I do not know  the legal ramifications but I think there should be something that holds contibuting factors to account.  If you are proud enough to bully you should be ready to defend your abuse or suffer consequences for your actions.

One  of the short stories is the collection of short stories I wrote called A Tale to Tell deals with peer pressure.  A person might do things they never would do to be accepted and later find out that acceptance was a sham.  It was a tactic of a bully to push another to do something offensive to gain acceptance….at what cost.  The Midnight Hour is about a supposedly haunted cememtary.  Who knows what lurks in the darkness of the Midnight Hour?

It only takes a moment to say something nice and pass a good thought on to others.  We may become angry but words do have power so mind what we say.  We have a chance to do something special each and every day we are alive or….we can just not care.  Either way please do not be a Bully.   Do not spread the disease of hurt and harm.  Take a good thought and pass it on and someday it will come back to you.

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