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Saturday, July 6, 2013

I Can Do It Continues Part 2






I Can Do It Continues Part 2

It has been quite a challenge to not only work to create a book that truly is written by both my grandson and myself but also the process of teaching writing to a child of this age. I know of others who listen to the ideas and then write the story. That would be the process of writing with a coauthor but I wanted it to be more.

I feel if I hurry to write the story I might miss the opportunity to be a part of an experience in learning that could carry on later in life. I have no idea what Zander wants to do when he grows up, but firmly believe that learning all that we can is never a waste. A friend of mine marvels at his enthusiasm saying it is because he is his grandma's boy and grew up watching me writing, typing, discussing, and shares my passion, feeling a part of it. That is probably true but I believe it is also in his own heart and his own desires no matter where it originates. Helping a child to enjoy learning is like an adventure for me. We have fun.

I think having fun in learning is especially important to the young. As we grow older we know there are assignments or things we need to do and learn and may do it because that is what we need to do. A young child might not feel the need or understand the advantage and their attention might wander to other things they find more fun and appealing. It is exciting to see them want to do and learn because they can not wait to do and learn more. Seeing them filled with pride and confidence in the new things they understand and now can use is only a start. Seeing them with a desire to continue and learn more is more than I can resist.


That is the reason I am working to write a book that will take others through the processes we are doing to learn and write our book. I plan to share things here too but am actually doing this second book in the same manner I use when I teach Zander or speak with school children or any others wanting to learn. It will not be a work book although it will have spelling words, learning definitions, concepts and hopefully a new way to think and see things as we work creating something special.

Zander has a pretty good understanding of many things relating to writing but I am going to try to relate some of them here and in the book. When I have tried to teach him some things especially if they are things he might not run across in everyday conversations with his friends I try to make it either fun or challenging. Often it is like a puzzle if he can figure out how it works.


One of the first things we discussed is what it takes to make a story. I asked him if he knew. He frowned not knowing what answer I was looking for. I explained that it takes a beginning, middle and end. If we tell all about someone and where they are, maybe even what they are doing but that is all, there is no end. “Sam was a big boy with brown hair ran swiftly. He ran in the race and was one of the fastest runners of all in the race.”

He waited for me to continue explaining. “We know that Sam is a big boy and has brown hair. We know he was fast when he ran and that he was running in a race. Did he win? Did something happen? Who else was in the race? What things do we need to know to make it a story instead of just telling me about Sam?”

A big smile came across his face. “Sam was only one of the kids in the race. There were a bunch of kids and one of them was mean and tripped him. When he fell he lost the race.” He laughed and asked it that was the end or did I want to know more?

That was the beginning of understanding for what we were about to begin. I want him to understand how important words are. We use words to write our stories. We use words to communicate with each other. We use words in many ways. We need to understand the words we use and the meanings.

I asked if he knew what a protagonist is and he gave me one of his special looks. He did not know and was not sure he cared but it was a challenge between us. I waited for him to ask what it was and was not disappointed. My momentary silence was soon filled with him wanting me to tell.

We have made such good progress since my last blog but I will try to bring us up to date and get ready for next week.

Spelling Words and definitions

Protagonist : the principal character in a literary work (as a drama or story) The chief character in a play, novel, or story
a leading actor, character, or participant in a literary work or real event

“I guess we could say that the protagonist is who or what the story is about.”

Zander smiled with understanding, “I know now. It is the person the whole story is really about.”
I love to create a bit of a challenge to think a little deeper. “It could be a person, but what if the story is about a talking dog, or a pumpkin that comes to life or even a ghost or an alien? Those are not just people. One reason we have words to have better understanding of what we are trying to say. If I just said the person the story is about that might not be good enough depending on our story. The words protagonist tells us all of that with one word and we know who or what in the story we are talking about.

Antagonist one that opposes another. “Who or what is causing the problem? If we know who the protagonist is and we know what is going on then what is the problem or thing that is happening in the story? What is keeping the protagonist from doing what he is trying to do? He smiled and said, “In the little story, it is the mean boy that tripped Sam.”

I was thrilled. At that moment he had learned two words I have never heard an 8 year old use before, but as we continued to talk and discuss ideas for stories and examples of things involving the protagonist and antagonist I could see him growing more accustomed to hearing and using his new words. I did not want to give him words so that he could learn the definitions and memorize them, but own them by knowing and understanding them in his own discussions and use. We continued to talk of many things but I found ways to use the new words as we did enjoying his responses when he too used the words. At first he seemed hesitant but soon seemed proud.

I mentioned since he knew what a protagonist was then he understood it was about the main character of the story. When we say character it could mean more than one thing. Some words have different meanings depending on how you use them.

We know that just as the protagonist is the main person or character of our story...the character is what? The character is a person or something that is one of the actors or participants in the story. You may have many characters.

The boy who was a fast runner is the protagonist that is the main character. They boy that tripped him is also a character but not the protagonist, or one the story is about. You could have other characters in the story such as “When Sam fell, two other runners stopped to try to help him up and see if he was hurt. All of the other runners ran right by and did not seem to care.” There may be many characters.

He had to think on that one for a bit. A smile came across his face and he was ready for more.

I told him what about this? “Look at that little dog chase his own tail. He runs in circles. He is such a cute little character.”

He looked confused. So I tried a different example. “The little old man could tell such funny stories and made us all laugh. He is such a funny character.”

What was it about the old man that made him such a character? Was it because he did something different or odd compared to others? Was the little dog doing something odd, different or funny? Was the old man doing something different that caught their attention with his stories?

Character an odd or peculiar person
a person in a story, novel, or play


We could also talk about what kind of character a person might have that made them trustworthy and honest. Are they of good character? Would the word character then describe something about a person?
Character can be moral excellence


We went on discussing different ideas for stories using the new words and he seemed to delight in one idea after another using his new words.

Ever so often as we used the words protagonist and antagonist I would spell it. Casually as we talked he was learning new words and how to spell them.



PLOT is another word that can mean more than one thing depending on what we are saying and how we use the word.
Plot and mean the main story (as of a book or movie) I like to use the word and give an example as we talk. You notice I did not say teach, because I am teaching by including him in the conversations or allowing him to crave an understanding, knowing he can figure out the puzzle or answer with it in the end.

“As I read the story it was so interesting I could hardly wait to see how it ends.” You could think of the plot of the story like a guide of how the story goes from beginning to end.

What about other ways to use the same word? If we are talking about a ghost story it would be a paranormal story. That is something that is not normal or out of the ordinary and normal. We could say “I was afraid to go near the plot of the old man who is supposed to haunt the cemetery.” We know the plot is a small piece of ground where the old man is buried.
a small area of ground : <a cemetery plot>

If I told you to be careful because I think some of the characters in the story will plot mean things for the protagonist, what do you think?

Zander laughed and said “That is easy. The main character had better look out because there is some bad stuff ahead.”


“That is right. We might say they have an evil or unlawful scheme of plan that is what they are plotting to do.


We continued talking and using the new words we had learned. I mentioned the original children's story The Pumpkin Field. He had heard it so many times he almost knows it by heart. Through the years he never seems to tired of it as he looks for other meanings for the same phrases. I wrote it hoping it would be something to stimulate thought as well as tell a story. I mentioned if we wanted to write the rest of the story as he had thought we could actually use the words from the first story in the second and develop it into a new story with the other story included.



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I got out a copy of the book and he smiled as he read and looked at each page. “You will have to do some pictures for our book too. I know we have mostly words and the story but I still like the pumpkins.....and the witch....and the cat.... Well I like them all.” He remembered watching me as I did each of the original pictures. The pages are full size art works with the words included in the art.  I was amazed when I saw the first book at how exact the print quality was. I could see it just like the ones I have in a folder.


It would be a challenge, but so was creating a story that did not have characters he so loves such as Iron Man or Spider Man. We had to learn to create our own characters from our own imaginations and not use what other people had created. That was a bit of a discussion before he understood and accepted that he could not use any character or story from the television.

It was exciting as day by day we learned new words and worked to develop what the new story would be. He wants it to be for older children. He loves the pictures of the story book I wrote and illustrated but he said there is so much more to this story he wants to tell. He wants it to be one that he and his friends could read.

We began to actually put a story together. He chose the characters and names. We had to work to find solutions to problems early in the story. I loved watching the expressions on his face as he thought and would propose one idea after another until we could find on that might work. Sentence by sentence we made a small beginning. I know it will be written and rewritten many times before we are satisfied but that is part of learning to write a book. I want him to understand and question even his own writing. “Is what I have written easy to understand? Did I describe the characters well enough the reader knows what the look like and what they are like as people? How do they work out their problems? What are their problems? What are they wanting to do? Why?” These were only some of the many things we talked about and tried different things.

After we came up with the first part I typed out what he thought the story should be. We have his ideas, his characters, his story and me putting it together. I asked many questions leading him to analyze the story and develop it as we went along. When I asked a question challenging something the would do or wanted to do he would think and come up with what he thought it should be . This is the first bit we did.........

Beyond The Pumpkin Field


Several years ago, I decided to see if the rumors I had heard about a haunted pumpkin field were true. It was almost Halloween and many whispered about the spooky field down the old gravel road, not too far from my house. It was a night I will never forget. I was afraid to tell others about it, fearing they would never believe what I had seen and heard.
It was the dark of night but the moon shone bright, casting shadows on things below. I was younger then and those shadows looked spooky. I was afraid but did not want the others to know how afraid I really was. I should never have gone without telling my parents, but knew they would say no or think it was silly. We did not think it was silly and I really wanted to know the truth. I had heard many times that there was nothing in the dark that was not there in the daylight, but it sure looked like there might be anything hiding there in the dark.
As the years passed I began to wonder if even in time, we might never know what was the cause and the reason for it all. I just know what I saw, or thought I saw. I know it was true but then again, could it have been a dream? Those were things that I thought about from time to time.
When I think back to that night it was as if some kind of eerie spell had crept in and strange things were all around. The only way for a person to know for sure what was really going on, would be for them to go and see.
In the day it was a field that looked so peaceful with all of the plants the farmer had planted. When I went there before that night in the daylight the field was full of pumpkins the farmer had grown and corn stalks bundled here and there. The scarecrow hung limply on his perch looking old and worn with hay peeking out here and there. His blue shirt was faded with age and his hat hung down low on the head full of hay.
The moon had a silvery light and almost blue in the shadows. I felt a chill in the air and I began to shiver. I remembered the stories I had heard and the rumors of how haunted the place was.
I had also heard about the spell the old witch they told tales about was said to have cast on the land. There were many stories about her too. They say she used to own that land, but the farmer took it away from her. She was so angry she moved far back in the woods, casting spells and haunting anyone she ran across. The other children said a single look from her could turn you to stone or some other equally bad spell she might cast. There were other stories about her too. Each time they were told, the stories became more fearsome.
I have to admit that I was afraid. I was so afraid that night that I could hardly walk. I am still afraid. I have only told a few people about that night but none of them think it was real. Some people think that I just fell asleep because it was late and I had a bad dream. Some told me they thought I was telling lies. Some just laugh and think I am making it all up to scare them. When I think about it, I see no way it could be real. I wonder myself how it could have happened like I remembered. To this day I remember it all.
I walked up to the pumpkin field down a long road lined with big trees and bushes. I expected for one of my friends to jump out and try to scare me any time but it seemed like I was all alone. I could hear the frogs singing their night song not far away in a pond near the field. There were lightening bug or fireflies that flickered in the dark. I had a flashlight but was afraid if I used it, someone might come to see who was there and tell my mom and dad I had been sneaking around in the dark of night. I did not want to get into trouble.
I did not realize that if I got hurt, no one would know I was there. Any bad thing could have happened. It was really not a smart thing to do but here I was thinking about doing it again. Since no one believed my story I began to wonder about it myself. It all seemed so real but I could see no way that it could be real.
Now that I am a teenager you would think I would have figured it out, but I just have more questions. I decided I would have to go back. I might have to go back more than once. No matter what it took, I would have to figure out if it was real or only a dream. I had a plan to take a friend or two this time. I was going to have a witness if there was anything special to see.
This time it would be more than just me that saw things in the dark of night that sent a shiver down your spine. The next day at school we were eating lunch with everyone laughing and talking. I decided to confide in my two closest friends about my plan and hoped they might decide to join in too.
Matt could come and stay with me on the weekend. We would be able to sneak out together and be back home before daylight. I did not like to sneak but that night haunted my memory for all they years after it had happened.
Mary was friends with my older sister. Her name is Amie and she is only a year older than I, but thinks she has the right to always boss me around and treat me like I am only a little kid. The only way I could think of for Mary to be able to come with us, would be for her to stay overnight with my sister. My sister might tell on us and then none of us could go. She also might think it would be a lot of fun or another chance to show how stupid I am. It was a risk I would have to take and hope that Mary could convince her that it would be fun.
When I first began to explain what I had in mind, they both laughed and asked me if I was serious.
“I remember when you first told me all of that and can not believe you are serious. Are you telling me after all this time you still think you saw all those things and that place is haunted with an old wicked witch waiting to catch people?” Matt laughed and I worried others might start to wonder what we were talking about.
“Keep it quiet. You two are the only ones I trust with this. The last thing I need, is for everyone to find out and start telling the whole world. I would be in a lot of trouble if my mom and dad found out. I don't want to listen to some of those bullies teasing me or making fun of me either. I know it sounds crazy but maybe you are just too afraid to come and investigate with me. There are all kinds of groups that investigate things like this that are haunted. They call them paranormal investigators. We would be like them, doing an investigation.” I waited for them to think it over and hoped they would not think it was silly too.
A big smile came across Matt's face. “Have you got a plan on how we can all get there in the middle of the night? The more I think about this the more I think it would be fun. We could be the official Pumpkin Field Ghost Chaser Team.” He broke out in peals of laughter.
“I don't think this is funny. I am serious and hope you will be too. You could come and stay the night with me this weekend and Mary could stay with my sister. They are both in the choir together and I think still friends. Sometimes I wonder how anybody could be friends with my sister as bossy as she is.” I waited to see if I would have company or have to make the investigation on my own.
Matt and Mary both started to smile but it was Mary that spoke first. “You can count me in. I would not miss this for the world. I think we will have to change the name a little. I will go for the Pumpkin Field Ghost Hunters but have to leave the chasing to you guys. If I find a ghost I will be busy runny away.” They all three laughed at her new name for their little expedition.




We have a long way to go and I am considering changing it to third person point of view. For right now we have had fun with him acting as if he was the protagonist and telling his own story. We will wait and see what develops. We have had such a good time and the hours flew by as we talked back and forth about, what if this or what if that? They could have done this but what if that? Questions and answers and before long it is as if we know them.

When I finished typing it he read it allowed and said, “I think we got it Mamaw. This is really going to be cool. I think we have enough ideas we will have to write at least 20 or 30 books. I know we can do it.” I had to laugh. He has told me that several times and his mother and grandpa too. We can do it. We are doing it. What a summer adventure.



We began making a list of things about our story........




STORY DETAILS

CHARACTERS

Jimmy main character Protagonist

Matt his best friend Character

Mary another friend Character

Amie Sister... 1 year older Character

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Jetta Stone Interview



Jetta Stone lives in Arkansas with her husband who is both a Cowboy and a 40 year careered law enforcement officer. Her love of the Old West Culture and the sport of Rodeo was the muze for her writings in this novel allowing her to not only create a vivid and realistic story, but one with the heart and soul of the culture found in so many who have the rodeo lifestyle.





Silver Moon is a rich story filled with passion and romance as well as high drama of shattered lives, hard choices, relationships that are breaking and bending, mystery, suspense and more. 


Interview with Jetta Stone – Author of "Silver Moon"

 Linda...

I've told a bit about you and Silver Moon but would love to have you share even more.

Jetta:..

Thank you Linda.  I would love to especially since Silver Moon is something dear to me.  As I worked writing the story the characters seemed to take on a will and life of their own.  Silver Moon immediately splinters into several different stories as it encompasses four separate lives. What makes the story interesting is that although each individual is struggling with their own issues, there is a common thread tying them together and that thread is the business they have contracted into as co-owners.  Money is the key and they hope to make a lot of it in this new business venture. Their hope is that this business will offer the launch for the change each person wishes for in their personal life. 

One wants to leave a relationship – one wants to desperately hold onto a relationship – one wants to realize a life long dream – while another wants to prove their self-worth.  All want change, and all get change; however, little did they know what lay ahead for them in the process.  Horrific consequences of this venture soon occur and bring about dark changes full of conflict, struggle, danger, and loss.  Yet, in the end, a lost relationship from the past resurfaces to see them through those dark unsettled times into a very different future.

Linda...

How long had you had the idea for your book before you began to write the story?

Jetta...

Silver Moon is a modern western romance. My husband owned a Rodeo Company for several years, and during that time I worked for the company. I fell in love with that Old West Culture – Rodeo is a New Twist of the Old West. The story started coming to me, piece by piece at first, then in a deluge that I couldn't keep up with. I had to pull over to the side of the road and write, I'd keep a pen & pad by my bed at night – I think I literally wrote in my sleep to keep up with the story and characters flooded my brain.

Linda...

Could you tell a bit more about how the love of the Old West culture and Rodeo helped to inspire you?  Many of us may have been to see a rodeo but there is always so much that goes on behind the scenes in any show, production or presentation. 

Jetta...

As I stated, I love the rugged, untamed nature of the Old West Culture.  Every generation has its heroes.  Superman is one such character.  Superman was a fictitious character, yet he was embraced for his bravery and moral values, which are the common threads which tie all heroes together.  The American Cowboy is a real life hero whose memory has crossed generations.  His courage and patriotism has been kept alive through music and the written word, and rodeo.  The horses, those Stetsons and Boots, the competition to tame the wild beast are all captivating and perhaps a bit hypnotic.  There is an intensity and vibrant life you can feel in rodeo and the people there.





Linda...

I would love to hear about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?

Jetta...

Well, I love the female heroine in the story, Jessica Warnick, and I do classify her as a hero. What is a hero? A hero is someone who takes the appropriate action at the appropriate time regardless of personal risks.  Sometimes that hero saves others, or saves the situation, sometimes the hero saves themselves.

Linda...

Who is your most unusual or most likeable character?

Jetta...

Oh, this one is easy. This character, Jake Warnick, is a person whom the reader will immediately develop a love/hate relationship with.  They will root for him to overcome his demons, for he really wants to.  They will get angry with him for his bad behavior and what it will cost him.  They will be intrigued by his playfulness and women will lust after him even though he is a bad boy.  Well, maybe that "is why" they will lust after him! Ha.

Linda...

How long did it take you to write your book? 

Jetta...

Let's just say "too long".  The book was in constant flux for a lengthy period of time until I finally had added enough variety of characters and venue to complete the fleshing out of the story to a point where I was satisfied that no more could be done to it.  I wanted it to be more than just a story well told.  I wanted it to be a story with characters that the reader could actually get to know and a story they would not forget.

Linda...

How do you develop and differentiate your characters? 

Jetta...

A good story is based upon a good plot.  After that, developing the personalities and actions of the characters to fit the plot is what makes for a good story.

What works for you to develop the plot and stay on track? Do you have specific techniques or customs that assist you in this process?

Jetta...

Using a well planned out plot is the framework on which the activities and personalities of the characters and situations is built.  Adhering to this framework keeps my mind from straying too far into useless material.

Linda...

How and when do you decide that you are finished writing a story? What do you consider being finished writing with the story?

Jetta...

The story is finished when no more can be done to achieve the ending of the story.  There are many other things to consider before the word finished can properly be used.  Editing of the story reveals issues to work and revise and at times even rewrite.  I am not sure that any author is ever really at peace to say it is finished as there is nothing in this life that is perfect and we strive to create the best that it can possibly be.  I gues there is a difference between writing the story and finishing the book.  In the story achieving the end of a well written and fully develped story would be an end to the beginning of what the author envisions for the book.

Linda...

What is your goal for the book?   what do you want people to take get and remember after they finish reading the story? 

Jetta:

I would hope that the reader would realize that all people have flaws in their character and behavior, even heroes have flaws.  Sheer physical strength and bravery do not necessarily make someone a hero.  Standing on one's values, not giving in to the moral decay in society could be considered being heroic.  Or, giving others the maximum time and effort to change, then having the courage to walk away when they do not change could be considered to be heroic.

I want each reader to get to know these characters and maybe find a way to look at things in a deep and understanding way.

Linda...

Could you tell a bit more about any message in your writing you want readers to grasp?

Jetta...

I would be happy to.  Be fair to others, but, be true to your beliefs.  This might be the idea I would like for people to be left with as they close the back cover on the book.

Linda...

What things have changed for you personally since you wrote your first book?

Jetta...

It has been delightful to get to know a whole new group of friends, who are writers themselves.  Writers support each other and are very sharing with their knowledge of the field of writing.  Hearing from all of the people who have read and are reading the book has been a pure delight.  I feel as if I am watching a dream become a reality and I can hold it in my hand.  I see the chance to share something I am passionate about with others and hope I can help them along the way too.

Linda...

What has been the thing that you found most surprising about being a writer?

Jetta...

Learning to think of myself as a writer.  I have always loved to write but never thought of myself in that way.  I worked to write a well crafted book that has more than a simple story.  I wanted Silver Moon to be special and leave the reader with more than just the story but also an understanding of the characters and their way of life. 


Linda....

We have discussed many things in our local writer's group and the group on line.  I would like to thank you for all of your participation and the time you devote helping and reaching out to others.  I want to thank you for taking this time to reveal things allowing us to better know you and the story of the story.  I also want to say I can hardly wait to read more.  I know this will be only the beginning of many new things to come.

I have heard news that you will soon be offering a special event sharing this wonderful novel in ebook for Kindle for free.  Could you tell us about that?

Jetta...

I am so excited for this opportunity to give Silver Moon as a gift and share with others.  The time is soon approaching and will be announced officially very soon....   but    I will tell you what I have planned.

July 19, 20 and 21st anyone can download the ebook of Silver Moon.  This is a 494 page novel that seems to appeal to men and women alike.

Linda...

Could you share some of the links where we can find more about you and the things you are doing and have done?

Jetta...

My facebook page is   https://www.facebook.com/JettaStone

        and      https://www.facebook.com/Stone2.J

That Ain't No Bull   Blog   http://jettastone1.blogspot.com/

    jettastone1(Twitter)

Amazon Author Central Page     http://www.amazon.com/Jetta-Stone/e/B005UNPFU2/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_pop_1





I retired from a 20 year career in the field of Health and Nutrition and I have worked as a Realtor for several years. I also worked with my husband in his Rodeo Company. It was the latter experience that led me to write my latest novel, Silver Moon. I loved the culture of the old west that has been preserved throughout the years in the sport of Rodeo. I gathered ideas from many places to write Silver Moon and my current novel project. Environment, people, places, experiences, movies, history books all give some inspiration toward any book idea in a writer's mind and these all play a part in the formation of the stories I write.

I try to learn from life and all that it has to offer.  I'm currently finishing up another novel - Lake of the Dead - that goes off in a totally different direction of thought than the contemporary western romance - Silver Moon. Lake of the Dead is a suspense thriller and I hope everyone will enjoy the read as much as I've enjoyed writing both of these novels.








Jetta Stone is an amazingly talented author that does more than put words on a page.  Jetta takes you to a world and people you can know and enjoy.  She reaches out to others with hope, help, inspiration and helping in any way that she can.
   

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Life Goes On…Inside the Characters…Part 2




When talking about the mechanics of families and their members it is often far more complicated than what we see and hear.  We may see and hear what a person says or understand what it is they intend to do, but the reasons behind their actions, responses, decisions, or attitudes is a combination of so many things.  It is unnecessary to go into detailed descriptions of all that was or might have been for the character of this story.

The story shows the situation, allowing the reader to understand and get to know the characters.  John felt desperate to save his family from not only being homeless, but from feeling he had lost them to their environment.   He could see and hear the changes that were so evident and dreaded the thought of what the future would bring to each in their own way.  Feeling protective and instinct to provide provokes he even farther to find a solution to something that seemed out of his control.

These feelings are things that may happen to many people in all different circumstances.  We may feel that life has become out of our control and that we are rushing toward a future that is uncertain at best and destructive or disastrous to all.   We want to love and protect those that we love.  As options become more limited the desperation increases. 

With the loss of control in our lives we often fear the changes that result.  If we have no control to direct the changes and have to simply survive, it leaves a vulnerability that is complicated in emotional responses. 

Becky and John had few options available and time had run out to debate what they should do and where they should go.  They both realized that the children would object to leaving all that they had left in life that was familiar to go to a new place with new people where they were sure they would not fit in.   Becky had the same feelings.  John view their prospects of being homeless and at the mercy of the streets with all there was there or life moving to the unknown.  He felt apprehensions that were even greater than how they would fit in, where and what it would be like where they lived, how the children would react to the new life and new schools. 

John felt the burden and responsibility of providing for his family.  He knew he would have to find a job, a home, and a way to make it all work.

Becky had no desire to make changes that were so all encompassing as to relocate to the country from the city life that she knew and understood… from where they were to moving down south… living with in-laws she did not even know and had never felt a bond or even acceptance from… with children she knew would absolutely refuse to go.

She had always tried to talk to and reason with, and even negotiate issues concerning the children with them instead of telling them or making rules.  She knew there would be no negotiating if they wanted to go or would agree to go to live in rural Arkansas.  She dreaded their reactions and the actions they might take to avoid being forced to do something they did not want to do.

The eldest daughter thought she was in love.  She was positive this was the soul mate of her life and that they had all of the answers.  He loved her and she loved him and that was what was important to her.  She would refuse and possibly even want to run away and live with him and his mother.  From the little that Becky knew about them she hated the idea her daughter was involved with the young man at all and found the mother to be no help or asset in the situation.  Becky felt totally helpless to find a way to deal with what she knew was soon going to happen.  They had no other choices.  She had been working as hard as she could and they were steadily going down instead of up in life.

John announced the temporary solution to the concerns about the children having adverse reactions by not telling them until there was no choice.  He was not considering asking their opinions.  Their opinions were not realistic in the adult world where being homeless or in a crisis situation was real.  Living with your friends or boyfriend might seem like an option to them but he was not going to discuss any of what was soon to happen.  He had decided the time had come to be the parent.  They had plenty of friends but where were the friends when you really needed them?  It would be up to them to find a way for the family to survive or suffer the consequences.

Bobby had been so lost when they first left the home that he knew and loved where he had friends and a school filled with happy days and optimism to go to an area filled with threats, intimidations and people he did not understand but feared.  Every moment at school was filled with apprehension, fear, isolation and even abuse and taunts from others.  There was no friend to turn to or smiling face to console his misery.  The hallways were filled with the crowded throngs or masses of students as they went from class to class or pushed and shoved to get a better view of some fight here or there. 

For Bobby to find a way in the transition after the loss of their home he turned to the first friendly and safe sounding option.  He thought it was like a blessing when he met a new friend as he sat on the steps outside their apartment one day.  He considered himself lucky to find a person even though he was so much older who accepted him as an equal and offered not only friendship but protections and opportunities.  If Bobby was one of them, he could make a lot of money doing simple little things like delivering a package here or there or maybe just holding on to it until someone else came for it.  There might be other things too, allowing him to make even more money.  The other people who had picked on him would have to quit because he was not alone anymore.  He had his… friends.   His friends understood how hard things were and they were there for him.  His friends were becoming like family to him.  Day by day he became more alienated to family and oriented to the gang ways of life. 

The youngest child loved them all but would eventually adapt and follow in the foot steps of her elder siblings.

The decision to refrain from explaining plans in advance allowing the children time to make other plans seemed a reasonable plan.  Plans do not always work as we thought but these parents were swept up in circumstances that required they find a way to control and direct the path of their lives.

Becky had voiced her apprehension about the move and living with and actually being dependent on… even if it was temporarily,… family of his they did not really know.  As he explained to her the history of the people there and those that had passed before them she felt no relief.  She felt even more the distance between them and those they might soon be at the mercy of for even shelter.

When the children grew suspicious that there were things going on they need to know about John had to find a way to control the conversation to tell only what he wanted told and yet he did not want to lie to the children.  The situation was difficult enough, but working with the people in the family to keep them united as a family in heart as well as physical location was going to be a difficult task.

During this part of the story we can discover more than what is described about the characters.  We begin to know them as individuals with their own thoughts and feelings.  All of those things contribute to the story in the story.  The people in the situation and the inner being behind the words begin to grow.

For John and Becky the thought of homeless with three children was no option.  The idea of leaving all they knew and found familiar to start their lives over was intimidating.  There was no time for tears if they were to succeed and survive as a family.  They had seen so many families with children running away or the stress and strain being too much and resulting in divorce of the parents. 

Life would go on, but what kind of life that would be was a question they had no answers or means to foretell. 

Part of what kind of life they would have to experience or survive was dependent on the man that made the offer of shelter and a new start for them all. 

We may think that we know someone or know a lot about them but we will never fully know the heart of another.  They knew many things about this Uncle James that offered to help but they did not really know him at all. 

Everything we learn and live in life is reflected in the way we perceive or react to things in life.  It may help us to better understand things and people or be part of what leads us to misunderstandings.  Uncle James had lived a lot in the years of his life.  Accepting a whole family with children who did not know him, and he assumed would not want to come, into his home and life was going to be a challenge.  Uncle James might present a challenge at times to some of the family but if they were going to build a better life they would have to find a way to meet new challenges and succeed.

The time was soon to be when there would be no turning back.  What ever choices and decisions they made would affect their whole future as individuals and as a family.


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